Va:c
The Whale
Connecting humanity, this Bycode is really good at understanding the undercurrents of people and cultures. Whether they're working in entertainment, business, or politics, Whale’s will be deeply involved in the interpersonal dynamics of their environment.
Highlights
People with the Whale Bycode are great at taking cues from their surroundings, learning quickly, and adjusting their behaviour based on what seems to be needed in the moment. They are aware of what goes on in their community and promote ideas and conversations that aim to bring people together in greater understanding. They're creative thinkers and can see connections and possibilities that others might miss. They excel at easily noting and aiming to understand the key drivers behind the behaviour of people in their surroundings. They work to use this skill to contribute to a peaceful work, home and family atmosphere.
Challenges
Being enmeshed in the perspective of others, they often need space to process their own feelings and thoughts so as to fully arrive at their own perspective. Due to being constantly attuned to what goes on with people around them, it means they prioritise group harmony above attending to each unique perspective of every individual in that group. They may tend to spend an excessive amount of time processing issues with friends and family that may not even exist. In an attempt to preserve their connection with others they will react (and possibly over react) to anything that threatens that. They may struggle to confidently create balance between externally valued behaviours / group expectations and their own personal sense of right and wrong and tend to oscillate between these two extremes. They tend to overly focus on external metrics of social value and overestimate the importance of underlying patterns they observe. They tend to acquire skills if said skills are valued by others around them. Developing skills for personal interests or for purely self validation or interest is challenging. They struggle with developing a routine of practical habits and life skills that are useful in everyday activities and in furthering their career objectives. They tend to choose objectively valued activities over their personal preferences when developing new skills. This can create a tidal wave of frustration later in life when they realise they have put their own objectives on a back burner in order to pursue ‘the greater good’. Finding the right balance between adhering to group standards and staying true to themselves is an ongoing struggle for people with this Bycode.
Bycode Explanation
This bycode has V and A as the first 2 letters, which stands for Value and Abstract. This means they are hooked by abstract values. They have C as the third letter after the colon, which stands for Confer. This means they are hooked on comparing and sharing. Confer is made from two Expansive functions. Combined together, This means they are Value Expansive, then Abstract Expansive.
Relationships
When it comes to relationships, people with the Whale Bycode face some tough challenges. They are acutely aware of what other people deem important, or even what another person seems to need to be or feel or is expecting in the moment. They pay attention to what has long been called ‘body language’ and have developed a keen sense of noting the mood of others. They feel an internal need to mirror others in an attempt to connect. This, in turn, means that individuals with this Bycode struggle to express and assert their own personal viewpoint. This can cause problems in their relationships. Acutely aware of the group or other perspectives, they can minimise or downplay their own opinions and sometimes even those of their loved ones. The constant oscillation between their own views and the views of others can create an internal tension which can cause feelings of resentment towards friends and family and the general society. A feeling of “I'm not allowed to express my honest thoughts and opinions” can haunt this type. Understanding other people’s perspective and their emotional patterns means that when people of this Bycode enter conflict situations, they tend to struggle to assign value and importance to their own logic or opinion (the louder voice or voice of majority often wins). At times they can also struggle to accept the logic and opinions of others that they personally deem as incorrect or unprincipled, although struggle to disagree in any kind of tangible way. When they care, they prioritise maintaining a stable positive emotional atmosphere and smooth out interpersonal conflicts. Their ability to see patterns helps them understand and appreciate that we are ultimately all quite similar, and therefore work to overcome emotional hurdles and crises, be it in a relationship with others or in a relationship with self. In marriage, they work hard to provide their partner with a supportive and loving environment and readily diagnose and address emerging unhealthy patterns. In general, the Whale Bycode is good at adapting, being supportive, and making sure their connections with loved ones are happy and positive.
Suggestions
For this person to grow, it's important for them to find time away from others where they do not feel the ‘pull’ of the tribe to meet its needs. They need specific times to process for themselves the ups and downs of their daily interactions and to focus on defining specific schedules or patterns that will bring them closer to their own personal needs. It may take a long time and many seasons of reflection in order to understand fully what their own needs and important goals even are. One way to grow this skill is to practise not running to the tribe for feedback on every decision, thought and idea. They are already overworking this aspect of their code. It is of utmost importance that they take time regularly to focus on building their own interests and skills, even if it causes some emotional discord in their environment. When they confidently share their thoughts, even if it goes against what others want, they become powerful catalysts for growth and positive change.
Summary
This Bycode excels at connecting people and understanding different cultural perspectives. Whether they're in entertainment, business, or politics, individuals with the Whale Bycode are skilled at sharing what others find valuable.